Grief for losses without a name.
Your identity. Your beliefs. Your certainty. Your meaning.
The life you thought you were building.
Grief Companion | Non-Religious Spiritual Director | Existential Health Practitioner
You're in transition
Religious deconstruction or loss of faith framework
Living between identities
Divorce or major relationship ending
Retirement or major life-stage change
Loss of community or belonging
Illness or confronting mortality
What this feels like
You're carrying a strange mix - grief for what's gone, relief that it's over, anger at what you were taught, confusion about what's next, maybe even moments of unexpected clarity or freedom. It's not one thing. It's all of it at once.
Nobody prepared you for how disorienting this in-between space actually is —where the old identity doesn’t fit, but the new one hasn’t emerged yet.
How I work with you
I companion people through grief for losses without a name — when beliefs, identity, certainty, and meaning fall apart.
I know what it feels like when the ground disappears and nobody around you can name what's happening. When loss is psychological rather than physical, it rarely gets recognized as grief — but the disorientation, the groundlessness, the not knowing who you are anymore — that is grief.
I'm just here to listen deeply, reflect back what I hear, and hold space for what's trying to emerge.
My role is to companion you — not to have the answers, but to stay present while you find your own.
Why You Might Be Here…
My journey…
Over the course of six years, my life fell apart. Divorce. Faith deconstruction. Identity collapse. Multiple layoffs and cross-country moves. Everything I'd built for 50 years unraveled.
I was raised Catholic, became evangelical in my forties, then had a spiritual experience that cracked everything open. My faith was completely deconstructed. With each loss - marriage, career, belief - another layer of identity stripped away. I tried filling the void with new spiritual systems, but I was merely swapping beliefs, grasping for certainty. When everything falls apart, you learn to surrender.
I'm in reconstruction now, letting go of old promises and expectations, and learning to be present. For a type-A planner, this doesn't come naturally.
Through my own journey and the journeys of those I've encountered along the way, I've seen how few spaces exist for processing these transitions honestly. I am a certified spiritual director with the Center for Non-Religious Spirituality and a grief companion through Grief Unleashed — offering what I needed most: companionship through the wilderness.
I don't have certainty to offer, just presence. I walk with people through the grief of losses without a name.
Work With Me
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Contact Me
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lori@loribickel.com